"Feeling Stuck? 5 Powerful Steps to Start Over FAST!"
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[00:00:00] Do you ever feel like you're stuck, like no matter what you try?
You can't move to that next level if you're not stuck. I'm gonna share with you all the things that I have in my bucket that have helped me get unstuck.
You are not stuck. No, you're not.
I've been listening to this Taylor Swift song lately. The line in the song, nothing new. It says, how can a person know everything at 18 but nothing at 22? And I pretty much have been singing it. How can a person know and everything at 18? Yeah, that was me and nothing at 52.
Yes. Still me. I think that life is supposed to have stuck points, but. I feel like we're not supposed to stay stuck, I think the first step to getting unstuck is acknowledging the fact that you're stuck and accepting your current situation is not where you want it to be. [00:01:00] My dad used to always say to me, like, especially when I would come home grumbling about my. Job in fast food about the customers and this and this and that.
And he said, you know, if you don't like your situation, you're the only one that can change it, and if you don't change it, you are gonna drag everybody else down with you. But what if you don't even know that you're doing that because you're going through the motions, refusing to acknowledge the situation that you're not happy.
It might seem like a really simple thing, but once you accept where you are, accept like that ugly feeling of this is not where I want to be and fully embrace that, that's not going to feel nice, then that's the time that you're gonna gain some momentum. To move forward. So my dad shared that with me, like, you're gonna drag everybody down.
Because he knew, [00:02:00] he knew that I was the person that really loved spreading joy. So he knew that that one sentence would trigger me into making a change. Now, he also backed that up by saying, find something to do before, find a different job before you quit. The first job, which was very sound advice. And, and I went along that path and I, and I changed my situation.
So it's one example at a young age where I learned how to get unstuck because I was acknowledging, and I had someone there that helped me acknowledge that I was not happy the way I was and I was dragging others down. So, you know, if you are stuck, you're probably complaining. I don't know. I usually do if I'm stuck or I get a little bit more judgy or a little bit more bitter like they can do it because, or I, you know, it's easy for them [00:03:00] because, and, and life is, you know, if you're, if you're getting into that not self theme of you, of where you, you're not really even enjoying who you are being as a result of being stuck.
That's also a micro acknowledgment. The next step, once you've gotten there to the acknowledgement phase, is you gotta define what's holding you back. We have all kinds of excuses that pop up in our life. I
sometimes it's fear, sometimes it's doubt, and sometimes it's small, like when it comes to exercise, okay. For me. I know that I've been needing to add more flexibility into my routine. You know me, I'm the walking girl. I walk every day with my dog. I do some strength exercises. I know that mobility and flexibility are super important and I get a little bit in, but I'm not really.
Able to, [00:04:00] to stay consistent or do it well enough on my own, for whatever reason. I keep making excuses. I don't have time, I don't want to, I have to get onto something and so I'm not doing it. So I thought about, you know, starting a class, going to like a yoga class once a week or, or something like that where I signed up for something.
I pay money. So if I pay money, I know I'm gonna show up for sure. And I'm going somewhere that they're gonna guide me through a full length section and it should be easy, right? So. I did, I was invited to join a hot yoga class, which is a nice, long, deep stretch. Nothing like dramatic because that just freaks me out, like add heat and drama in the same room with me and we probably are not gonna have a good time.
It just like makes me [00:05:00] nauseous just thinking about it. So I get to, I get to class, I was invited by another friend, right, that she went and she had great results of like feeling really good the next day. And I've been having these shoulder issues and achilles heel issues. So I'm like, my body's really talking to me.
I have to do this. So I'm sitting in the the waiting room. Right, and I'm wearing my socks and I'm sitting next to a girl and she's wearing these nice little ballet grippy slippers, she said, I like to wear these because it gets really slippery in there.
And so I feel like they keep me gripped and she's told me where to get them and. And I looked down at my socks and I'm like, well, I like to keep my socks on because I have an ugly toenail. And I'm like, did you just say that out loud? You just said that out loud. So now you have to, you have to tell her why you have an [00:06:00] ugly toenail.
And I started to think about it and I'm like, as I'm narrating my story about my toenail, I'm thinking, is this what's been holding? Like, is this the real reason I haven't gone to. Classes, like I used to lead fitness classes. Right. And it's been about six years since I've been to a live class. Exactly. The last day that I taught my last class was the last day I was in a group fitness class.
And you know, of course there was COVID and everything right there. There was all of that. But was that was my toe, the reason why I wasn't going, you see. So I'm telling this girl.
I used to run marathons in half marathons and I led group fitness. For seven years and uh, it kind of did a number on my toenail. Like it likes to grow layer upon layer upon layer. And I've been [00:07:00] to a doctor about it. There's nothing wrong with it. It's just gonna grow that way because it's been reprogrammed to grow that way from all the damage and the stress that it's had.
The only thing that we can do is remove it. And that sounds painful, so I don't wanna remove it. But it looks really ugly. And I feel like if I take off my socks at a yoga class, people are gonna see my toe and think I'm gross. And as I'm hearing myself say these words, I'm thinking, wow. And you know what she said to me?
Wow, you have ballerina toes. What? What a perspective shift suddenly my, my gross toe as, as toenail as I'm putting it, that prevents me to ever wear open toe shoes freely or take off my socks in a public place. Even at the beach. It makes me [00:08:00] uncomfortable to take off my socks. I'm like, hopefully nobody can see it.
So we all go into the class and I find my spot and it's dark in there 'cause it's infrared and it's, you know, it's dark and, and red. And I'm like, I'm gonna take off my socks. And I took them off and I looked at my toe and I no longer look at that toe as being gross.
But now all of a sudden it's like a, it's a badge of honor of. Thank you body for what you've brought me through, and that's one tough toe. You've, you've been through a lot just to satiate my desires and it's strength. So if anybody judges me for my toe that's that's on them, I get to release that and be free.
So we have excuses. There's lots of excuses. Wherever there's a problem, there's a solution, right?
Once you identify the [00:09:00] thing that's holding you back, and my example, you know, I've identified that being barefoot was holding me back Now, now I'm free to take whatever yoga group fitness classes I want. Oh, and guess what The best thing was the next day. It was the first day in two months that I was able to dress myself like, because my shoulder's been giving me some pain.
With no pain, and it's like, okay, so my intuition was right. I do need more stretching, so I'm going to that class once a week. Now I'm really excited about it.
So if you have troubles like distinguishing what is holding you back, you can, you can start by just like writing things down. Um, it's funny when you, when you get into listing things, there's, there's little things that come up. Whatever it is that's holding you back, and you can, you can get there sometimes by journaling, by writing.
The next step for getting unstuck is to not, like, make it really super hard for yourself. I have a [00:10:00] tendency to like, go all in
knowing that whatever action I take is going to build some momentum. So I, I have a tendency to like. Want to like go big or go home. I feel like I'm still deconditioning myself from a decade of working as a fitness leader and having it pounded into my head that it a specific program. That is made by somebody else that it's just like a cookie cutter program meant for, you know, just for everybody.
But everybody is so different. But if I'm not doing it specifically to the schedule on the days and never missing a workout that I'm, that I'm failing, that I'm doing a poor job, that I'm doing it wrong, that I'm not going to get results. And sometimes diving in head first, and then like plugging your nose and hoping that everything works is like [00:11:00] the first step that's gonna cause you to.
Quit, get injured, not be able to keep up. Start talking to yourself in the negative voice. Well, I can never do this. So the smaller you make the steps, the better. So even I had a tendency, like I'm looking at all the classes and I'm like, oh, I could take that class and I could take that class. And I'm telling myself down, girl, you have a, you have.
You're, you're working with a system? I'm working with a system Right now. I'm working with a program that's more absolutely tuned in to who I am and the stage of life that I am, and, and it's working and, and also it's on my astrology and, and like, I just never thought to look there and that's a little woo, but you know, I can go deeper into that at another time.
So I decided instead of diving into like, you know, the full [00:12:00] membership plan, I'm just gonna pay a little bit more money than I would on a membership, and I'm gonna get the passes and I'm gonna stick to one class a week until I feel like it's ultimately time to do two classes a week and build up from there instead of going too hard, too fast and overwhelming myself.
So whatever it is that you need to shift. And get unstuck with. Do it at a pace that you feel good about it. You don't have to go at anyone else's pace but yours. You get to decide this is your creative life, this is your life in motion. You don't have to. Do anything on anybody else's timeline, on anybody else's, uh, program that's, that's designed for them, that might've worked for them, but it's not necessarily gonna work for you.
You need to listen to your body and, and listen to your timeline and your intuition taking all of these [00:13:00] teeny, tiny steps and putting them into smaller goals is the way that you're going to be able to. Get in action, not by trying to do it all at once in a week.
So the next thing is to take immediate action. You can't wait for the perfect moment. You know, you're taking action. You're, you're watching this or listening to this right now, so that's a version of you taking action. I don't know if you can hear my dog snoring in the background, if you can. That's just some nice ambient music for us to enjoy.
The hardest part is, is is usually starting, so taking action when you feel that first burst of momentum is. Is going to help you. So what I left out of the, of the story about me getting invited to the class was that was very spontaneous. I was not [00:14:00] looking for that. I was downtown. I was doing a little shopping.
One of my friends said that she felt so good after a class that she took. I was overhearing a conversation and I but myself in the conversation and I said, what class are you talking about? Because this is something that I've been thinking of, not only for like my physical health, but for my mental health to get in a group setting, like with real life people.
I, I need more of that at this stage in my life, you know? So. Anyways, I wanted to know more. And, and then they, you know, I was invited by two people at the same time and they said, you can come, right. You're, you're gonna come. Right? And I just, I found myself nodding. Yeah, I'll be there. But you know what she did? She got my email. Right. And I'm like, Ugh, I know where this is going. And I gave her my name and my email and sure enough she followed up with me later on that night and I'm like, okay, I'm in. I'm [00:15:00] taking immediate action. So sometimes that's what we need.
You know me, I, if you've been around me for a while, you know that I am not one to really get on the accountability buddy wagon, but. You know, it's nice to be invited and it's also nice to. Um, have a group of friends that enjoys doing the same thing that you do, or you meet to do the same kind of things, but it's like a low commitment friendship.
You know, you're just going there, you're sweating together, you're sharing space together, and you're going home and it's, it's a little slice of social activity. Maybe you do that already with whatever club you're in, if you're, if you're. You know, watching this on YouTube, make sure that you drop a comment.
And if you're listening on the podcast on your Apple player, come say hi on YouTube. I'll, I'll give you a link below. The thing with Apple is, is that I [00:16:00] like with the podcast player. I love that you're listening to me there. Please don't stop. But I don't get to hear from you. You don't get to leave a comment.
And the nice thing about YouTube is I, I get to hear from my listeners. I get to have conversations with you and the comments and, and that's what I, I love about being there. That's a great segue to step number five, which is to build a support system. Now, support system can be anywhere. It can actually be physical people. It could be like meeting for a group like I I mentioned before.
It is finding people that lift you up. It's listening to this podcast. It's engaging with other listeners in the comments,
it's engaging in, in communities, whether that be online or it be like with a club or a group that you join in real life. Maybe you go hiking with people on Sundays. Maybe you go to a weekly class like I do. Maybe you have your own little like playlist going on and favorite creators on this type of topic. And you can have comments with other people [00:17:00] just like you
a support network is a group of people that are doing the same thing as you. A support network is not a place where you need to go and, do all the heavy lifting of lifting other people up. There's a difference there. The support group is everybody together. It's lifting each other up because they're coming in with positive notes and positive things to add to your life In.
This life of creating your life in motion. It is a creative life in motion. It's the life you want is yours to create, and it's always active in motion, which is why on this podcast we don't wait to be happy. We fall in love with who we are, being on the way. To like our goals, everybody has goals and strives for things that they would like a little bit more of.
It's never a shame to want a little [00:18:00] bit more outta something and know that, you know, there's nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. If you feel like you're stuck, you're just in a spot where, let's recap.
You gotta accept where you are. Identify what's holding you back. Set small goals. Take immediate action and build a support system. Starting over doesn't have to feel overwhelming. And you know, this could be like one of the most exciting times because, because once you. Take that next step. If you think about like being physically stuck in the mud, right?
What? What's your intuition? Are you just gonna stand there and let the mud swallow you whole? No. You're gonna take one foot up and no matter how hard it is you're going to get out of there because that's what we do as humans. You're not stuck. You are just in a place where there's, there's a little bit of a pivot [00:19:00] point.
It's a little bit of a nurturing phase and figuring out how can I be kind to myself and move forward at the same time?
You are gonna find a ton of things in the description of this podcast. Resources and tools that you can use to get unstuck physically with walking. A lot of times going for a walk is going to help you sort out whatever you're stuck with.
If loving your body is on your list, then walking is definitely something that you're gonna wanna do, not only physically but mentally as well.
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